You are either on the inside or the outside, black or white! If you’re not with us then you are totally against us. Sometimes it can be like that. But often we are more in between. Maybe you do not feel so convinced as those around you? Maybe thoughts or feelings are a bit “gray” or mixed? You doubt. Is it right to do this? Was it a good way to meet her? Is it absolutely true as he said it? Should I invest more in this relationship? Should we wait to have sex? Is what I believe in completely wrong? Am I worth anything whatsoever? Does life really have a meaning?
It is healthy with some skepticism and good to stop and ask critical questions to
ourselves and our surroundings. Otherwise we are like hay that whizzes around
with the wind, shapeless and colorless. I’d say it’s very healthy with a dose
of doubt toward strong authority figures, the tabloid truths and our own
prejudices. But there is also doubt of a kind that might be quite painful. Most
types of doubt pass by rather quickly, but not all. It can drain us until exhaustion.
Doubt may occur gradually and then become completely immersive, or it may be
there as a longlasting “murmur” inside us. Continue reading